LIFE, DEATH AND GRIEVE:Daddy, Chief Afolabi Olatunji

AFRO CARIB LIFESTYLE AND ACHIEVERS THE AFRO FASHION SHOW IRELAND LIFE, DEATH AND GRIEVE

Hello Readers, Wow! What a life we live, people, fashion, death and what we do. I love life yet I keep finding myself curious about why? When things happen, like Lost is unexplainable; the reality of death can’t be changed and I ask myself how do you grieve? It became so real to me Death! My lost bring me to the question Life? My concerns about life come from a place of hurting and pain, confusion or despair. So I needed to establish some clarity over the value of life. If not, I/we may be curious about where we come from, or what the nature of life is, the lost of my father and the relationship which I was in became questionable. Am so in love that I cant let go even when am not totally sure also “My Father” I don’t know what I should do right by him, am not perfect so was he but I know he did love me and I love him too. The pain of lost comes in different way and its base on your life experience. I say again death! Is real, hearing of his death a day to my big show create some strength to make him proud, for hours I couldn’t stop crying, screaming and realizing that I lost a man in my life which I believe loves me more. If you were to ask me/ anyone and give us a choice between living in their present circumstances or not living at all, the bulk of us would opt to continue living, I realize at that moment how much I want to live for my children, I held my kids close and made them realize my fear death, telling them that am going to die also because then it became so real, life and death. This says everything. Life is inherently valuable and dear to us, regardless of the circumstances but the question now is how do I grieve? Death is the cessation that connects between our mind and our body. Most people believe that death takes place when the heart stops beating; which is physical but this does not mean that the person has died, because his subtle mind may still remain in his body. Death occurs when the subtle consciousness finally leaves the body to go to the next life. Our body is like a guesthouse and our mind like the guest; when we die our mind has to leave this body and enter the body of our next rebirth, like a guest leaving one guesthouse and travelling to another. We all know that one day we shall die, generally we are so reluctant to think of our death that this knowledge does not touch our hearts, and we live our life as if we were going to be in this world forever. You only faced the reality of death only when a very close love one do actually die, like Dad, Mother, Children or a lover, husband or someone close that you see and relate with on a daily bases. Death to me now became so real and it scares me and I realize I have to make some changes, say something’s before it’s late and do things when I can. I love you daddy!!!!...... Question: "What does it mean to grieve / quench the Holy Spirit?" Answer: When the word “quench” is used in Scripture, it is speaking of suppressing fire. When believers put on the shield of faith, as part of their armour of God (Ephesians 6:16), they are extinguishing the power of the fiery darts from Satan. Christ described hell as a place where the fire would not be “quenched” (Mark 9:44, 46, 48). Likewise, the Holy Spirit is a fire dwelling in each believer. He wants to express Himself in our actions and attitudes. When believers do not allow the Spirit to be seen in our actions, when we do what we know is wrong, we suppress or quench the Spirit (1 Thessalonians 5:19). We do not allow the Spirit to reveal Himself the way that He wants to. To understand what it means to grieve the Spirit, we must first understand that this indicates the Spirit possesses personality. Only a person can be grieved; therefore, the Spirit must be a divine person in order to have this emotion. Once we understand this, we can better understand how He is grieved, mainly because we too are grieved. Ephesians 4:30 tells us that we should not grieve the Spirit. We grieve the Spirit by living like the pagans (4:17-19), by lying (4:25), by being angry (4:26-27), by stealing (4:28), by cursing (4:29), by being bitter (4:31), by being unforgiving (4:32), and by being sexually immoral (5:3-5). To grieve the Spirit is to act out in a sinful manner, whether it is in thought only or in both thought and deed. Both quenching and grieving the Spirit are similar in their effects. Both hinder a godly lifestyle. Both happen when a believer sins against God and follows his or her own worldly desires. The only correct road to follow is the road that leads the believer closer to God and purity, and farther away from the world and sin. Just as we do not like to be grieved, and just as we do not seek to quench what is good—so we should not grieve or quench the Holy Spirit by refusing to follow His leading. Read more: http://www.gotquestions.org/grieve-quench-Holy-Spirit.html#ixzz2N9ZSwvqd Grief is neither a disorder nor a healing process: it is a sign of health itself, a whole and natural gesture of love. Nor must we see grief as a step towards something better. No matter how much it hurts–and it may be the greatest pain in life–grief can be an end in itself, a pure expression of love–Gerald May, M.D. “For me my grieving process is loving, remembering the good times and bad, making decision which is necessary, showing more kindness, being strong by continue to live life itself and most of all searching for more about my creator, my lord, My God Jehovah, myself and others around me that makes life meaningful” By Susuana.O.M OLATUNJI-KOMOLAFE Again I Love You Daddy, Chief Afolabi Olatunji and to You out there “TAL” To All Living Death is Real !!!!!!!!!!................................................................ http://susuanaom.blogspot.ie/?view=timeslide

FACES THAT WILL GRACE THE AFRICA HISTORY MONTH IRELAND 2013

Please can anyone guess, who is this beautiful woman "Interviewing" one of the Designer as the Vavavoom TV's Fashion Roadshow by name Claire Garvey??? She's beautiful and wonderfully created, lovely but-tom and a smile to die 4!

POST DEPORTATION FOR AFRICANS THAT LIVED IN IRELAND {the Forgotten Deportees}

Hello Readers, Catherine Reilly B.A., M.A. is a freelance writer, journalist and for years she has wonder what it’s like for people that are being deported home from Ireland back to their home Country do cope, survive and share their experiences this lead her on the journey to the “Continent of Africa”. www.catherinereilly.com As a journalist Catherine has wonder, curious, about what happened next in the lives of these people deported. The lives of people who spent years in Ireland but had to leave, mainly through deportation. The project was supported by “Mary Raftery Journalism Fund. Many deportees are failed asylum seekers who have typically spent years in Ireland in a protracted process and then, quite suddenly, find themselves uprooted in what can be a very bruising process psychologically. Most of Ireland’s deportation exercises are to Nigeria, given that this is the main source country of asylum seekers to Ireland. As is well known, Ireland has a low record of granting international protection (refugee status and subsidiary protection) therefore many people find themselves having to consider leaving Ireland voluntarily or indeed waiting until a deportation order is served and carried out by the Emigration Unit. Between 2005 and 2012, some 2,259 people were deported from Ireland, including 973 Nigerians. Earlier this year, Catherine heard that the Mary Raftery Journalism Fund was looking to support investigative journalism under the theme of ‘Migrant Issues’, and in this year of ‘The Gathering’, I thought it was opportune to take a closer look at the lives of people who are essentially “The Gathering’s Uninvited”. By that, I mean that these are people who established connections with Ireland – who had kids born and predominantly schooled here – but who were not permitted to stay and are unlikely to ever gain permission to return. Funmi, who lived in the Mosney Accommodation Centre for 3 years before being deported in December 2009 is back in Lagos, Nigeria. Catherine met Funmi, a single mother and her six year old daughter Claire was born in Drogheda, but after the 2004 referendum on citizenship and consequent legislation. Therefore she was not accorded Irish citizenship. Funmi, who spent three years as an asylum seeker in Ireland, has struggled for employment and a decent living environment since being deported in December 2009. Claire has had malaria on a number of occasions (indeed children who were not born/had not previously lived in malarious regions are particularly vulnerable to contracting malaria) and she often asks of Ireland. I was asking Funmi about the strong GDP growth that Nigeria has recorded in recent years and she said it was “make believe” because most people have not been benefiting. The length of time she had spent in Ireland seemed to have exacerbated her difficulties in finding a foothold in Lagos – she didn’t seem to have a good support network and relied on loose acquaintances that were not always what they seemed. Her asylum claim had alleged that a family member threatened her pregnancy as Claire’s expatriate father was a Muslim and her family was Christian. Certainly, if this were the case, it will have contributed to the isolation she is experiencing. Catherine also met mother-of-five Noruwa, who had triplets in Ireland. Extraordinarily, it was only at the point of delivery at Waterford Regional Hospital that it was discovered that she was, in fact, having triplets and not twins as expected. Her triplets were named David, Joshua – and Miracle. It was an amazing story which Noruwa narrated really well. Again, the triplets are not Irish citizens because they were born post-changes to automatic citizenship by birth. According to Catherine she was struck when visiting Noruwa, however, was the demeanour of her 10-year-old Paul. This family had lived in Ireland for over five years until deportation in March 2012, so Paul has, to date, received most of his schooling in Ireland (in Drogheda). He seemed lost in thought, confused, and missing Ireland. On another note, Catherine also met a number of parents of Irish citizen children who are waiting over two years on visa applications to return under the terms of the 2011 “Zambrano ruling at the European Court of Justice”. This ruling concerned a case from Belgium and essentially found that the non-EU parents of EU citizen kids should be granted residency and work permits in the countries of nationality and residence of their children. The parents I met had a broadly similar profile - they had left Ireland voluntarily after the 2003 Supreme Court ruling in the L and O case, which found that parents of Irish citizen kids did not have an automatic right to residency and could be deported. She thought their current predicament, and that of their Irish children, will surprise people, as it’s an under-reported issue. People have wondered about my impressions of Lagos. Her journey to Nigeria gave her an opportunity to meet many friendly people, hard working and challenging environment. Lagos as we all known is chaotic and underdeveloped; though she appreciate there are some fine houses in the small number of upmarket areas. She thinks the rich-poor divide that exists in Nigeria is infamous at this stage. Though Nigerians always hope for better, and believe God will help them, the current mood is not so good – and this was not what I was expecting. She had read about Nigeria’s strong GDP growth and Chinese investment etc but it seems economic growth is not alleviating the widespread poverty that exists. People have also asked her whether she think it is a country that generates valid asylum/protection claims. My impression (and clearly Lagos is one of the safer regions) is that there would definitely be valid claims arising from Nigeria. However, there is no doubt, to my mind, that huge poverty/unemployment would cause some people to invent stories in a bid to begin a more stable life for their families elsewhere. This obvious challenge the authorities assessing such claims in Ireland, for example, but while they may be correct in dismissing many claims, they may ultimately underestimate the amount of sound applications for international protection. As for myself being a Nigeria, strongly believe that everyone coming out of the Country to seek asylum deserve a chance to live on the Irish Soil, reader I want you all to follow Catherine in The Irish Times, and read more of her work, materials, write-up and shared experience of her “Journey to the Continent of Africa months to come.

HISTORY AND CREATION OF THE IGBO UNION AROUND THE WORLD

I coming from the Yoruba tribe and living in Lagos, have so much love the Igbo culture, lived and have them as friends , a friend of mine here from Jamaica always referred to himself as “Jam Igbo” he believe that if he was from Nigeria, he will be from the Igbo Community. The Igbo is a strong community here and back home and also known as hard working people, not all is positive but I believe we all have our negative side as people and as a community. Although most studies on Ndigbo claim that before the British colonial enterprise, Igbo societies existed as fragmented Village Republics. However, by the mid-nineteenth century, Ndigbo had developed a strong sense of national identity and there is also some evidence of ancient Igbo Empires. Two of such Empires identified by B. O. N. Eluwa, one-time Secretary General of Igbo Federal Union, were the Ado-Na-Idu and Nri Empires. Indeed, before the 20th century there were numerous pan-Igbo unions and organizations existing around the world. There was the Igbo Union in Bathurst, Gambia in 1842, founded by a prominent Igbo trader and ex-slave named Thomas Refell. Another was the Igbo Union founded by the Igbo Community in Freetown, Sierra Leone by 1860. The renowned Igbo anti-colonialist leader, Africanus Horton, a surgeon, scientist and soldier, was an active member of the Igbo Community in Freetown.” Olaudah Equiano, the famous 18th century ex-Igbo slave, carried with him his Igbo national consciousness into Europe. This was obvious in his 1789 Narrative, where he described his Igbo nation as “A land of Happy Clean people, without drunkards, without unemployment, without beggars and without prostitution”. There is no doubt that Equiano made these remarks as a comprising of life in his native Igbo land with the social predicament of the early European industrial society. Rise of Pan-Igbo Organization in the 20th Century; Back home, “the 1930s saw the rise of Igbo unions as organizations of indigenes of various Igbo towns, clans and divisions in the cities of Lagos and Port Harcourt”. One of the most popular appellations to those unions was “improvement unions”, evidence of the philosophy that motivated their formation. The original impetus for the formation of the various town, clan and divisional unions was the collective welfare of their members as well as for the social, cultural, economic and educational improvement and advancement of both their respective communities and the communities in which they were resident. One of the greatest achievements of these pan-Igbo organizations was the promotion of Igbo identity, which initially flowed from the fact of a common language, common culture and shared values, all of which eventually led to search for common ancestral origins of the Ndigbo as well as discovering the link between Ndigbo and other ethnic groups in Africa in general and Nigeria in particular. Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe was one of the early searchers in this direction according to Rt. The Hon. Chief Dennis Osadebay, the first Secretary-General of the Igbo Federal Union in 1943, In those days we all longed for a greater knowledge of our Igbo historical past and identity beyond our common heritage of the Igbo language (Eluwa, 2008, p. xiv). Igbo Federal Union; In the thirties, Igbo Unions were formed in the urban townships of Lagos and Port Harcourt. The Lagos Igbo Union was formed in 1934 to unite all town, clan and district unions in Lagos into one national body. According to c. De Aguomba, The history of the pan-Igbo organization goes back to the early 193o’s when some Igbo in Lagos formed the Lagos Igbo Union in order to organize a reception for Dr Akanu Ibiam, the second Igbo medical doctor who had returned from Britain where he had qualified. The Union brought together several towns, clans and divisional organizations and became a voice for Igbo and its objectives were mainly for the welfare of the Igbo in Lagos. The first actual Pan-Igbo organization uniting these various town, clan and divisional or district unions in various cities in Nigeria was Igbo Federal Union, whose formation was spearheaded by the Igbo Union, Lagos, in 1943. The weakness of the Igbo Federal Union was due to the fact that it was merely an association of town, clan and divisional unions in cities. Its influence was therefore limited; as it was unable to mobilize people in towns, clans or divisions in Igboland. Igbo State Union; In December 1948, a pan-Igbo Conference was held at Port Harcourt attended by Igbo Unions in the various cities in Nigeria, including representations of home-based unions in Igboland. The aim was “to organize the Ibo linguistic group into a political unit in accordance with the NCNC Freedom Charter” The Conference led to the formation of a new association, the Ibo State Union. Its membership was open to the clans and towns of Ibo-land as well as those in various non-Igbo cities throughout Nigeria. This development was also influenced by the dynamics of the anti-colonial struggle and the early signals of the nature of political struggle in a multi-ethnic society. According to c. De Aguomba, The founders of the new union had anticipated that Nigeria would be re-arranged into states based on cultural and linguistic affinity, and Igbo State would be a member of the Commonwealth of Nigeria… This certainly was the idea Nnamdi Azikiwe advocated in his book, Political Blueprint for Nigeria published in 1943. The idea of forming ethnic-based socio-cultural and political organizations was already gaining grounds in Nigeria, the first such ethnic-based organization was the Ibibio State Union which was formed in the early thirties. Such developments stemmed from the increasing realization that the most decisive forces in the power struggle in a multi-ethnic society are the ethnic groups and not individuals. And as such there must be some organizational instrument to defend and promote the interest of each ethnic group. Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe understood this fact when he inspired the formation of the new Igbo State Union and became its pioneer President. However, Zik’s weakness as an organizer led to his failure to sustain the needed political equilibrium between the National Council of Nigerian and the Cameroons (NCNC) of which he was President and the Igbo state Union. According Richard L. Sklar, > The founders of the Ibo State union were no less politically motivated than were the organizers Of the Egbe Omo ODUDUWA; at least nine of the thirteen inaugural members of the unions provisional committee rose to high office in the NCNC, and seven of them have attained ministerial rank in the Eastern, Central and Federal Governments. (Sklar 1963, p. 70)

THE IGBO GALA NIGHT @ CARLTON HOTEL, SUSUANA ON THE RED CARPET

PRESS RELEASE FOR AFRICA HISTORY MONTH IRELAND 2014

THE AFRICA HISTORY MONTH IRELAND IN THE MONTH "NOVEMBER" AHMI 2014

AHMI 2014 to celebrate the history, contribution, participation, heritage and impact of all African's Living in Ireland on a yearly bases in the month of "November" for remembrance of important people and events in the history of Africans in Diaspora. Susuana Olatunji Komolafe initiate the Celebration AHMI 2010 standing for what I believe and now, there is changes around the world with the use of the Word African, like African –Americans. The initiative of celebrating "Africa History Month Ireland" and used the term OR word OR recognizing the continent and wide cultural heritage ‘Africans’ to denote ‘color’ or ‘black’ persons. I’m well aware that I have deployed the term un-problematically given the on-going changes of seeing Africans as Black People, we are Africans first, not Black People, am Africa from Nigerian with black skin complexion wish am proud to be.

The AHMI will take place in 5 various Counties, Cavan, Meath, Galway, Cork & Dublin. Come and Join the planning team and committee for Africa History Month Ireland November 2014. Book a stand at “The National Conference Africa History Month Ireland” on the 23^rd November at Carlton Hotel Blanchardstown, Tyrellstown, Dub 15, 4pm prompt -8pm.

JOIN US IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN PARTICIPATING ON THE PROJECT
If you are an African author, kindly make contact with the Committee of African History Month Ireland to participate in the "African Author Day" during the month of November in celebrating African presence here in Ireland and contribution to art and creativity to share the diverse. We will also have African Author from Northern Ireland @ the event. A Book Fair, reading and a chance to become an Author.

ACTIVITIES THROUGHOUT THE MONTH OF NOVEMBER 1^ST -30^TH

You are all invited as well on the 1st November to the Opening Ceremony "Gospel Praise Night" Cavan to celebrate presence of African here in Ireland, to praise our creator for his kindness and love. All proceed toward Renovation Fund Church of Ireland Cavan. Come let us praise Our Lord!.
Date: 1st Saturday November 2014; Venue: Church of Ireland Cavan, Opposite Court House, Beside Garda station Cavan; Time: 8:00 pm - 9:00 pm.

SUSUANA ROADSHOW WORKSHOP AND ADCENTER TRANSFORMING LIFE

THEME A WOMAN’S WORLD

Date: 6^th and 7^th November; Time: 6^th from 6pm- 10pm and 7^th from 12noon -4pm

Venue:  Alpha Training Centre, Bective Street, Kells, Meath. Opposite Esso Petrol Station, Beside HSE Office; Workshop Training Content: Sexology, Family Planning, Relationship, Legal Knowledge in a relationship, Makeup, Body Image and Fashion Drama Consultation.

If you are interested in attending this two day workshop of 8hrs attendance in total, contact us with your details and share with friends on adcenter25@yahoo.ie or 0894776061/0863370163/ 0873618587. The workshop is “FREE” but registration is compulsory and attendance.

PRESENCE OF AFRICANS IN CAVAN & STORY OF AFRICA

The Cavan Meath Africa Film Festival is part of the activities for the Africa History Month Ireland November 2014. Come on board, be part of the AHMI. We are having workshop on the story of Africa Origin and also Photo Exhibition, Display of heritage, Films, Africa Games and entertainment

Venue: Cavan Library

Date: 21^st Friday, 22^nd Saturday and 25^th Tuesday November, 2014

Time: Friday & Saturday 10-5pm, Break 1.00pm -2:15pm and Tuesday 10-8pm

We also collaborate with National Youth Council of Ireland in Celebrating "One World Week” which focuses on Youth, Young ones making a difference in the communities and special focus on Africa Youth called “Inspiration for Young Africa” where young people will have opportunity to showcase their various talent and strength.

"Say Know to Violent toward Women" Currently in Ireland, one in every eight pregnant women will suffer from some form of domestic abuse; we join force with Women Aid to create awareness during the program on the “National Balloon Action 2014” where our Legal Associate Member Cyril & Co. Solicitor will share with us.

We are also launching our new Initiative "Africa Caribbean Diaspora Men Forum" To celebrate men in our life, the impact of men in the society and working with positive men, also positive image for African men, youth and boys.

"The mission is to help our community thrive economically, ecologically, educationally and culturally, advancing their knowledge within the society we live and Media and Newspapers will be at hand to welcome contributors and cover all activities.

As a woman I have come to the realization of the important of playing my role within the society, in the world and as a believer in creating a comfort zone for every woman in life and in our spiritual journey with our Creator. 

The purpose of this project is to explore African history, culture, heritage, experience, creativity in writing, knowledge as seen by Africans worldview and African literature through solely African authors and people with knowledge of Africa  and Africa impact in the world development.

The Africa History Month Ireland is kicking off with a great event this year 2014 and we want everyone to support us in celebrating Africans Presence here in Ireland. The Recognition of the role of Africans in Ireland to celebrate "Africa History Month" Initiated here in Ireland since 2010 by Susuana O.M Olatunji-Komolafe in recognition of the contribution of all Africans that has lived or still living in the Republic of Ireland, which have played a positive role and make an impact in the society. As Africans we share history with Africans Americans, African British living here and back home as they also celebrate. To allow youth, children and young generation understand the beauty of their roots and staying strong in addressing the opportunities and challenges of being a minority in Ireland.

Big thanks to my board, friends, supporters, funders and everyone that believes in the vision.

"I have a vision. It is a vision deeply rooted in the Africa culture. I have a vision that one day in the Africa culture all over the world and throughout the universe that the sons of former slaves, Freed Blacks, and native Africans will be proud of their culture and we'll be able to live together as brothers and sisters. I have a vision that one day in African culture, the cultural science of “Blacology” will become real and Africa culture will roll down like waters and our history like a mighty stream"

AFRO CARIB LIFESTYLES & ACHIEVERS 

AFRICA HISTORY MONTH IRELAND {AFRICAN PRESENCE IN IRELAND 2013}

The African History Month preparation is starting again and we love to carry you on from the beginning and also help with the press release. Its four years now since 2010 that we have being celebrating the presence of African in Ireland and their contribution to the nation.

This initiative is organised by “The Afro in Diaspora Center”. Afro in Diaspora is a new group committed to supporting Women, Men and Children in OUR HOMELAND Nigeria, who live in poverty, need someone to support their dreams and experience a difference the best way they can.

To keep supporting Women, Men and Children in (AFRICA) and also to support ourselves by educating, informing, counselling, socializing and promoting each other as a group, while we hope and believe that the knowledge acquired will be passed down to support others. This is celebrated around the world, February as black history month celebrated in USA, Britain celebrate the month in October and we want to join in celebrating as well. We need your support in organizing the activities and sharing the event with everyone.

Black History Month is a remembrance of important people and events in the history of the African Diaspora. Since 1976, it is celebrated annually in the United States of America and Canada in February and the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland in the month of October.

Here in Ireland we have started to celebrate “Africa History Month Ireland” since 2010 making history and becoming part of the story. We have had success and each year we are hoping to improve with everyone support. We are including the upcoming activities of participant and places, the theme for the year is “African’s Here We Are”

Report From "The Africa History Month Ireland Committee" 2nd Meeting on the 19th of July @ 43 Lower Gardiner, Dublin. Registration for Stand: A Stand @ all location Galway, Cavan and Dublin If you like to have a stand @ the National Conference coming up on the 24th of November Carlton Hotel Blanchardstown @ Africa History Month Ireland, call now to book a stand. Opportunity to showcase the best of Africa and what you do or sell

The "AHMI" PROGRAM FOR THE MONTH OF NOVEMBER 2013 

Week One Location Dublin 

Creating Awareness on radio, television, newspaper and social media Opening, Press Release & Exhibition of Tribal Africa

Week Two Location Cavan and Galway 

Cavan African Film's Festival and Workshop on Women Affairs Theme: African Here We Are and Title: A Woman’s World Workshop on Men Affairs Title: A Man’s World

Week Three Location Nationwide 

Presence of African's in Ireland @ Schools and Meet African Achiever's living in Ireland Radio interviews on Various Radio's Station

Week Four Location Dublin 

Social Night: Diaspora Night @ No-boring Junction, Duleek. 22nd November. National Conference on the 24th@Carlton Hotel

 

SEXOLOGY CONSULTANT: WOMEN SEXUAL LIFE

SEXOLOGY


A very big thank you to my " Friends" that came to support my " Women Sexual Life" Workshop on 12th July,2012 at the Blanchardstown Library. Also to those that came for the workshop. My appreciation to Folake Jubril, Tina Akinola-Jinad, Tracey Arkins, Imanmodestwears, Ebun Akpoveta, Dr Livingstone Thompson and Ivy for their contribution toward being part of the success of the workshop. Most of all God Jehovah for the beginning of a great thing in my life and my love to my children for their everyday love and support. The workshop was a great success and well attended by the participant that took part, We had an up coming make-up artist "Tracey Arktins" she did the make up for most of the and did a demonstration with beauty tips. "Tina Tinuke Akinola-Jinad" also was there to showcase her Ankara for the "Ankara Carnival" coming up in October at the Gresham Hotel costing 30euro for those that will be interested in buying. A special tribute was also made in respect of the mother of one of the Director of Afro in Diaspora Center "Folake Freda Jubril" that lost her mother to cancer. The workshop was fun and full of activities, stall by PurpleVine with 50% sales on her bags and Iman Modest Wear from Artlone. These are some of the question that came up at the workshop by the participant and I believe most speak for all the women out there! Question: How do other women feel about going through the menopause? Answer: We all feel different about menopause but it's a natural process that every woman will have to go through, so we need to develop a positive attitude toward it. If you become sexual very active during the period of menopause than you will never notice that it’s happen. More sex does help, it doesn’t have to be sexual intercourse but a "Positive Sexual Thinking" Thinking sexually by changing your mind setting toward sex and your body expression, eating well and more outing all will help us as women in coping at the stage. Menopause (MEN-oh-pawz) is a normal stage in a woman's life when her monthly period comes to an end. Question: Is it a shame to do "A Blow Job" on your husband? Answer: I don’t think it's a shame to do anything in this world with your husband, but it depends on the attitude both of you have toward having sex as a couple. It’s very important that as a couple you develop a positive mental approach to sex, educate yourself about the fact of having sex. You have to understand that you are both expressing your love through making love together as one and knowing that it's an act of love making and there are no set rules, ways or method that is either wrong or right but what is right is what you both feel comfortable about doing with each other. Also it should be both ways that is vice versa. Question: View or Opinion on Sex Toys? Answer: It depend if you both love to explore. Just remember that it allows you discover yourself but I won’t advice that if you are single to get use to making use of Sex toys because it can become an addiction which can affect your relationship. Question: How do you know if a man loves you? Answer: Believe me that his a very difficult one to say but what am sure of, is that it's more easy to know when a man is Sexually attracted to you than if he loves you. Question: What makes a man to change from responsible to irresponsible? Answer: Weakness’, lack of faith, and thoughtfulness. Ladies this is just the begining of fun educative sexual life. Susuana Olatunji- Komolafe CEO, Afro in Diaspora Center Freelance Training, Entertainment and Sexology Consultant Email: adcenter25@yahoo.ie Website: www.adcenter.yolasite.com